‘No’ must be the most depressing syllable in the English language. A close second would be ‘I don’t love you’. These four words could crush you, tear you apart from the inside and depress you all at once. Every single day someone somewhere is out breaking hearts. Your crush might have broken yours too, but here’s a list of how to deal with this awful rejection.
Accept it and be sad
As mean as it sounds, it needs to be said: you need to suck it up and move on. This guy may have rejected you, but you must have been told at one point in your life that you cannot be in control of every situation. He didn’t reject you because you are worthless, but because you were not what he was looking for. This is absolutely okay since you would consider another guy not what you are looking for either.
Once you have come in terms with reality you need to let yourself be sad. That’s right, cry and scream into your pillow. As soon as you are done expressing your emotions you will feel a heavy weight slowly being lifted off your shoulders.
Do not end up obsessing about how perfect your crush was. Instead, go out and buy a new TV show people have been raving about. One with limited romantic scenes or high school romances would be applicable. Get one that forces you to obsess over the characters. My pick would be a vampire show with lots of blood and betrayal.
Listen to anti-male music
Lots of songs speak to women in a way that a movie will not. Put on an ‘I hate men’ playlist and sing your heart out to all the songs. Dance, throw things and jump up and down like a lunatic. A few songs you may consider including are ‘I Don’t Need A Man’ by Pussycat Dolls, ‘Scrubs’ by TLC and ‘What’s Love Got To Do With It?’ by Tina Turner. Put your earphones in and jam away!
Find someone else
You should never doubt for even one second that you will find someone else out there. Think about this: 10 years from now, he will not matter. Start thinking about all the negative aspects he had and you will find that they probably outweigh the positives. Cozying up to your male lab partner or that guy you had been ignoring at the office could be a great way to spark a new flame.
A quick romp with a stranger can also be an exhilarating way to forget about liking a guy who rejected you.
Talk it out
Call or text your girlfriends and tell them about how your crush rejected you. They will definitely give you time and space to vent and express all your negative feelings. This can be extremely liberating. After you are done expressing yourself let yourself go and begin laughing and talking about other topics that REALLY matter with your best friends.
Be happy…or at least try to
Do not let yourself sink into a miserable hole of sweatpants and ice-cream. Put on a smile and face the world. Being happy creates a ball of positivity around you that attracts others to you. The next fish may be watching out for that positivity and will want you in no time!
Remember that a simple rejection is not equivalent to the end of the world. You are a beautiful and amazing person whose uniqueness another person will come to understand. Wear a proud smile and continue living life the way you were meant to.