There is a time in most women’s lives when their biological clock starts to tick, but when do you know that it’s the right time to have a baby? This is one the most important decisions that you will make in your life, so it is vital that you get it right.
Consider your situation
Are you single? Are you unemployed? If the answer to both of those questions are YES, then it’s probably wise to wait until your situation changes until you bring a baby into the world. Of course you don’t have to have a partner to have a baby but it is advised, to help not just the baby but you too. If you don’t have a job and very little money, then having a baby isn’t right for you at the moment. Babies are very expensive, so are kids and teenagers! In fact, you will be paying your child’s way in the world for the next 18 years or so. The urge and desire to have a baby isn’t enough, you need to think of what is best for the innocent life you will be carrying and don’t make a selfish decision. If your situation is not ideal but you really want a baby, do your best to change things and evaluate again in a year or so.
Pros and cons
If you are definitely thinking of having a child, then make a list of the pros and cons to doing so, for you personally. This could be anything from your financial situation to not having much of a social life anymore. If you are extremely young, then you might want to have fun for a few more years, before you tie yourself to such a big thing. There are many positives to having a baby, you will have someone for the rest of your life to care for more than anything else. When all is said and done though, a list shouldn’t really decide if you have a baby or not. Go with what your instinct and what you really want to happen, for you! If you just don’t have that desire to have children, that’s OK – some women don’t and you can have a perfectly happy life without having children. Never have a baby for somebody else, whether that be your partner, parents and so on.
Don’t put it off forever
If you do want kids but you are the kind of person who says, “Now just isn’t the right time.” Ask yourself, when will it be the right time? There can always be a reason not to have a baby, it’s a scary prospect but please don’t put it off forever. Your situation might not be the same in a few years, so while your still able to be a (relatively) young mother to your child, you should go for it. Nobody has a baby and regrets it, the love that you feel for that little one is indescribable. If you are in the right kind of situation to have a child and you WANT to, then what are you waiting for?